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Perfectionism, Metaverse and Antifragile - AHD Issue #8
In this biweekly newsletter, I share quick thoughts to help you Achieve your goals | Engage in a journey to Heal | and Discover new ideas for fun.
Achieve, Heal and Discover Issue #8
Achieve: Defying the Perfectionist, Ntebo's story
Have you met my wife, Ntebo?
She is amazing and way smarter than I am.
One of our early podcast episodes covers her journey of defying perfectionism.
Perfectionism for Ntebo isn't about getting things right, rather, it is her natural ability to take control and get things done.
In this episode you'll learn how:
- A talent for efficiency isn’t always a good thing
- Let go of control
- Manage the things you cannot control
https://www.defyingself.com/episode-4/
Heal: Therapy in the Metaverse
The metaverse is weird, I get it. However, I have been on this amazing journey of working with clients within a virtual reality therapeutic space.
I know you may never have a metaverse therapy session with me but here are some takeaways that might still help you:
Play disarms fear.
Having hard conversations can be scary but a headset and some joysticks push fear to the side and make room for play. If you ever feel overwhelmed with fear, try to put yourself in a state of play for a reprieve.
Novelty removes barriers.
There is something freeing about a new shiny toy. It allows you to jump into adventure and exploration. You’ll find new powers to do things you thought were beyond your ability.
Anonymity creates confidence.
In the virtual therapy room we talk to avatars of each other instead of a person. It creates some anonymity but the audacity of the whole thing gives off this incredible confidence to say what you came to say.
Discover: Antifragility
I have begun to learn about a concept called antifragility.
The first I heard of it was when I was researching Post-Traumatic Growth which highlights how some people go through traumatic experiences and end up being stronger than they were before.
As I learn about this I plan to extract concrete steps to make us all more antifragile.
I am reading the book, “Antifragile: Things that Gain from Disorder” by Nassim Nicholas Taleb. Here are some quotes I’ve highlighted so far:
“Antifragility is beyond resilience or robustness. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the antifragile gets better.”
“Antifragility has a singular property of allowing us to deal with the unknown, to do things without understanding them—and do them well.”
“…fragile wants tranquility, the antifragile grows from disorder, and the robust doesn’t care too much.”
If you want to join me in reading, reply to this email and let me know you're jumping into it. We can do a zoom session book club to discuss more.
I’m grateful for you!
Take care!
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